Hi! During our first year, getting to know each other, anais let me read her LiveJournal going back to when she first started blogging, which was an excellent way of delving into her identity! I don't recall if she mentioned to me IRL and in person about you being genderqueer or not--might have been that I read it in one of your reply-posts to her LJ blog.
Me friending you recently was a spontaneous reponse to one of your more recent repies-- I think I was surprised to find that I had not already friended you along the way and did so then.
Anyway, it fits that you identify as genderqueer. There's something about the visual way you react to women that... well it isn't UNIQUE among lesbians, I don't mean that, but it has a different "flavor" or tone if that makes any sense. I wrote a theory piece a few years ago, exploring the whole feminist question of sexual objectification and visual components of sexual attraction and trying to be honest both about my own experiences as a sexual person and as someone inclined to take feminist ideas seriously. Did you ever go through a phase where you felt you had to think a lot about these matters and your own attraction to women on the basis of appearance and mull it all over and stuff? Have you ever gotten feedback from other lesbians that either puts you on the defensive or feels like they were trying to put you on the defensive?
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Date: 2016-08-13 05:58 pm (UTC)Me friending you recently was a spontaneous reponse to one of your more recent repies-- I think I was surprised to find that I had not already friended you along the way and did so then.
Anyway, it fits that you identify as genderqueer. There's something about the visual way you react to women that... well it isn't UNIQUE among lesbians, I don't mean that, but it has a different "flavor" or tone if that makes any sense. I wrote a theory piece a few years ago, exploring the whole feminist question of sexual objectification and visual components of sexual attraction and trying to be honest both about my own experiences as a sexual person and as someone inclined to take feminist ideas seriously. Did you ever go through a phase where you felt you had to think a lot about these matters and your own attraction to women on the basis of appearance and mull it all over and stuff? Have you ever gotten feedback from other lesbians that either puts you on the defensive or feels like they were trying to put you on the defensive?