"I get to live my everyday life not at all closeted or isolated but instead loved and understood and cared for and appreciated for who I am, and I in turn get to hold and love and cherish and have togetherness and meaningful connection in my life."
Success in Life is a multi-dimensional equation. You've hit the jackpot in some dimensions and are still struggling in others. They don't cancel each other out; you get to experience them both.
And remember, this is all just "...to date."